The system I wish I had


And today I’m going to confess there’s one critical system I should have, but flat out do not have. It’s a morning quiet time/daily devotional/meditation time.

Given just how much I need quiet alone time (personality type INFJ here), it’s weird that I don’t have this system down, but I don’t. My main struggle is that I HATE to get up early. Mike can survive on very little sleep (unfathomable to me!), but, personally, I’m worthless past 9:30 p.m. and prior to 7:00 a.m. Even if I’m not sleeping, it’s like I’m in a weird zombie zone.

After the kids go to bed, I typically write for the blog or respond to emails. I enjoy that time, but it’s still more of a work ritual. Not sure why, but I can’t get my head around a good morning system. Plus, my kids are typically awake between 6:00 and 6:30 a.m. so I’ve gotta set the alarm and get my rear end out of bed if it’s going to happen.

As we’ve already established, I pretty much stink at that.

The value of a quiet time and ritual is so important. I will totally shake my head in agreement to any person who states they value and set aside time for it. Sabbath in small increments. Yes, yes, to all of it. So what’s my deal?

In addition to the morning struggle, I think I have a major distractibility problem. My mind is constantly gearing up to address the next event, task, email, complaint, etc. And I have to really work hard at slowing my mind down and quieting myself. I’ve always operated from the premise that if it’s quiet, I must be forgetting something. Plus, this is the kind of work there’s no outside accountability for, it’s just my own wellbeing at stake. So I am far less disciplined about it.

So I’m going to try to do a VERY simple routine for the next week. That’s all I’m holding myself to — one week. Here goes:

  • Set the alarm for 6:00 am.
  • Read something like a daily devotion or chapter of a spiritual book (no news or blogs)
  • Journal something (I’m liking the idea of a journal template rather than staring at a blank page, maybe even typing rather than handwriting)
  • Pinwheel breathing, some sort of yoga stretching (Maybe??)
  • Asking Mike to preserve the quiet between 6:00 -6:30 a.m. (i.e. keep the kids out of our bedroom, this seems nearly impossible)

It seems so simple on paper, but I’ve just never been able to do it consistently enough to really feel the benefits. A friend of mind swears by it and says her whole day is off when she skips her devotional time in the morning.

What do you do that helps reset your soul each day (or week)? Do you have a morning quiet time? Does something else work for you? What’s the habit or ritual you wish you had in place (quiet time or otherwise)?

The system I wish I had